Every Body Leads

Mastering Leadership Presence

Personal Coaching with Kirstie Seaborne

In our daily challenges we have to make decisions, take action and face up to difficult conversations. Sometimes the stakes are high, and so is the risk of failure.

When we are under pressure we are more likely to sabotage our own success, because we act from our conditioned responses; the habits, behaviours and attitudes that are shaped and formed by our history and experiences.

But many responses are no longer effective for the task at hand; they are an outdated blueprint for success.

We lose ourselves to our moods, emotions and our performance anxiety. Or we lose out because we simply do not know how to act and what to say, because nobody taught us the skills we need and the practices we should follow, that help us move more effectively in our adult world.

Not just WHAT, but HOW

There is plenty of leadership advice that tells us WHAT being an effective leader is, but very little that reveals HOW to do it...

• how do we learn the qualities that allow successful leaders to remain secure and at ease when change, chaos, instability and high pressure is routine?

• how do we embody a presence that promotes credibility, safety and trust, and learn the skillful language patterns that get results?

• when our reactions and responses are getting in our own way, how can we update to more effective and appropriate strategies, and experience lasting change?

The problem is, leadership (and any type of communication) cannot be reduced to technique, because it is rooted in the identity, awareness, courage and integrity of the leader, and so by its nature it is an on-going personal journey.

But it is possible to be much better prepared.

Leadership is about influence. Influence is relational. It depends entirely on the quality and effectiveness of the contact, the relationships and the conversations we have with others (and ourselves). Our presence directly influences the outcome of our interactions.

How successful we are, depends on how we observe, respond to and manage our somatic, emotional and linguistic experience.

It depends on how our moods, internal sensations, physical structure and language choices determine our attitudes, behaviours, and actions.

Coaching that ignores any of these elements can only take you on half the journey.

Only when...

...you expand your somatic intelligence, can you move beyond performance anxiety and limiting responses, towards embodying the type of presence that is appropriate for your personal leadership challenges.

So I will design processes and practices that help you recognise your habitual response to pressure, change inhibitory and ineffective patterns (including reactive, defensive or dysfunctional attitudes), and shift from automatic, unconscious reactions to intended action, so you can regain control over the activity of your system

Only when...

...you observe how your history and experiences show up in your choice of words, will you discover how your language shapes and creates your reality. So I will teach you how to have the kind of skilled conversations that minimise conflict, confrontation, error and breakdown, create safety and mutual satisfaction, and lead to influence, effective action and successful outcomes.

Only when...

...you embody your Personal Leadership Philosophy (which is built around what you value, what you stand for, and what you are committed to make happen), can you take courageous action, make clear decisions, and move through life with confidence and certainty, becoming a master of choice, rather than a slave to habit.

So I will help you create one, and assist you in building the resources and the practices that move you towards your chosen direction and purpose.

THEN (and only then)....

...can you imprint a new presence that is shaped for consistent action, confidence and success, be free to focus on what really matters, when it matters... and lead the life you want.

Mastery Coaching is not a quick fix (but it delivers rapid results), it's not therapy, it's not life or career coaching, it doesn’t require you to reflect on the past, it doesn’t require self-criticism, or even modifying or controlling yourself.

It requires discovery of what is natural, and what is conditioned. It requires a willingness to become curious, aware and to allow change. It is a selection of simple practices and observations that make a world of difference.

Who Is This Coaching For?

It is suitable for anyone who wants to be more effective in what matters at work and in life; or who wish to step up to greater challenges with ease...from everyday leaders such as small business owners, entrepreneurs, educators, coaches, managers, therapists and parents, to Directors and CEOs of large corporations. Women leaders, especially, benefit from this program. Does that sound like you? If so, then let's have a conversation to see how we can make it happen. (click here)

I am not a faceless training company; you can be confident you will speak and work with me from beginning to end, and I have the freedom to personalize your coaching, to help you move beyond your personal challenge. Some evening and weekend coaching is available.

And don't worry if you have an important event or presentation looming, I can transform your performance and presence in a hurry with my Fast-track and Distance options. Click here for details.